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Saya, I understand where you are, and I'm sorry for the void a narcissist mother leaves in her daughter. You are strong. You've dealt with it, created a productive life for yourself and your family, and you know this. Reading your words, I know you know this. I celebrate that power for you, despite the twinge of pain that always comes when we think of our narcissist mothers.

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Thank you for reading, sharing, and understanding, Andra.

Much of the pain comes from her being the antithesis of a narcissist in so many ways, and wonderful in so many ways, yet the overshadowing of her goodness with (wave of hand).

Sigh. Never easy, is it?

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Thank you so much for this. I was estranged from my father for decades, chose not to visit him in the hospital before he died, and have no regrets about either.

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These ick scenarios are always made less horrible when you hear you're not alone — thank YOU, Lara.

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It sounds like she gave you the gift of free thinking and self expression. Mother/daughter relationships are challenging to say the least. I am 100% certain that she knows you love her and that she loves you too. There is a book called "Your Soul's Plan" by Robert Schwartz that really helped me after my husband's suicide, to understand how and why things happen the way they do and are, and how often the meaning we assign to events are not really accurate. Beautiful share.

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