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Liz Alterman's avatar

Thank you so much for publishing this, Jessica and Stephanie. xx

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Jessica Smock's avatar

It's an honor. Such a beautiful piece.

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Liz Alterman's avatar

💕💕💕

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Hilary Connors's avatar

Fury has made her tech savvy! OMG it is the truth. I haven't laughed so hard in awhile with recognition! Thank you so much!

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Ha! Thank you so much, Hilary! I'm glad you can relate and I'm not alone!

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Wendy Kennar's avatar

Beautifully written! Thank you for sharing!

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Thank you so much for reading and for your kind words!

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Suzanne Weerts's avatar

What a stunningly beautiful, resonant piece. So many clever turns of phrase. Love your writing Liz.

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Thank you so much, Suzanne! That makes my day! 💕

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Sheryl Parbhoo's avatar

"Instead of wanting this resolved, my mother wants to complain." I think this is my favorite line, because it resonates with my own experience losing my dad and going through the grief process with my mom. I still shake my fist in jest at the sky at him and say, "How could you go and die and leave me with her?!?!" I'm reading this on Father's Day. Thank you, Liz for writing this! Love, love, love everything about it.

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Hi Sheryl, thank you so much for reading this and for your kind words. I'm sorry for your loss. I've heard so many friends express these same sentiments. I'm glad we have each other! Hope you've had a peaceful day. xx

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Liza Blue's avatar

I totally understand and appreciate your mother's misplaced anger and frustration. When my parents died, I felt that I could target my misplaced grief at the staff of the funeral home. I could be snippy, sarcastic and altogether unpleasant without any consequences. Their job as "grief counselors was to suck whatever ever I flung at them. It was one of the few times I felt no remorse in becoming the worst version of myself. I told the sallow man with the red pocket handkerchief that it was inappropriate and insulting to place a bowl of "life saver" candies on the table as we discussed body disposition options. Ba Boom!

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Oh Liza, I'm so sorry for your loss. But I love your "life saver" insight. I can completely relate to that. Grief manifests in wild ways. Thank you for reading and sharing your experience. xx

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